Dating girls has never been easier before:
Today, millions of beautiful girls online are waiting for you. You find them on dating websites or in online flirt communities. And here is what is even more exciting: You also literally find millions of single women on social networks. Yes, I am talking literally about millions. In fact, there are over 100 million girls on MySpace. And there are another 60 million girls on facebook, with those numbers growing each day by the ten thousands.
Let’s be honest: That’s plenty of fish! You could be the most social guy in your whole area — and still, the number of hot women you might meet this way would totally fade in comparison.
You can actually compare flirting on dating sites with flirting on a singles party in your town. Social networking, on the other hand, would be more like meeting your dream girl through your circle of friends. And isn’t that the most common way for people to get a girlfriend? Studies show that 56% of people in a relationship actually have met their partners either through friends or on their job. If you ask women what they think is the best way to meet a partner, a staggering 73% of them will say it’s their social circle.
This means:
Girls expect their dream partner to show up through common friends, in social activities, on their job or at school.
In the online dating world, MySpace and Facebook are as close as you can get to that. And it’s true: You can even find a girlfriend on Facebook, and you can also find a girlfriend on MySpace.
But how do you approach beautiful women on Facebook? And how do you approach hot girls on MySpace?
The first thing most guys will think when they stumble upon a girl’s profile is: "Why would she even want to talk to me?". After all, beautiful girls usually do have a long, impressive list of friends, and most of them get ten or twenty e-mails from strangers every single day — that is, from strangers who are trying to get to know her.
That is no surprise:
Talking to a girl online doesn’t require the courage you might need to approach a woman on the street. It’s safe, because you’re not being embarrassed if she rejects you. Nobody will see it. And if she’s not interested, she probably won’t even reply at all.
And because it seems so easy, even the shyest guys will give it a shot. They figure they’ve got nothing to lose. And in the end, 95% of the messages in a woman’s inbox will sound like "how are you doing?", "did you have a great weekend?" or "would you like to chat with me?".
Most pick up e-mails a girl receives are dead boring. And after a week on MySpace or Facebook, a cute girl will have learned to spot and delete such messages in an instant. For girls on Facebook, MySpace or datig websites it’s just like you and I can spot and delete spam messages without even reading their content.
So you probably wonder what to say to a girl on MySpace, or what to say to a girl on Facebook.
How do you approach girls in order to stand out?
How can you meet girls from social networks?
And, finally, how do you get a date?
You are not the only one askingthose questions. I’ve been struggling with them three years ago, and today I have written a book about how to date girls on MySpace and Facebook. And I want to share with you what I have learned over the years so you don’t have to make the same mistakes.
What I found is: Dating girls is like building any other connection between humans. There are always three steps. You could call them dating secrets, but in reality, you will find them in any social interaction.
First, you need attention. Second, you need a connection. And, third, you need commitment.
Sounds easy, doesn’t it?
However, most guys will act on their first intuition. They will mix up the three steps right from the beginning when they flirt with a girl.
Just ask yourself: What is a guy really doing when he starts a conversation by asking an attractive girl how her weekend has been? First, isn’t that kind of a weird question, given the fact that he doesn’t know her yet? And second, that is not exactly getting her attention, is it? If a guy approaches a hot girl and asks her how her weekend was, he’s already trying to build a connection. He’s trying to make her share her thoughtsfeelings and experiences with him right from the start. And this strategy is most likely to fail: You simply cannot build a connection to somebody unless you’ve got their attention in the first place.
What does attention mean? It means to stand out from the crowd. It means to make her recognize that you are different. It does not mean, however, that you have to show that you are better than the other guys. Just that something about you is different. Getting her attention means to make her curious. At least curious enough to make her reply.
Connection, on the other hand, means to show her that you and her have something in common. For instance, you might have the same taste in music. You might both have similar hobbies. And you might share a common sense of humor. Humor, by the way, is the best pick up strategy anyway: If you can laugh with her, she will enjoy talking to you. And in the end, that will be the foundation for the third step:
Commitment. That is the final stage of every flirt. Commitment means that she will decide that you are somebody she wants to stick around. Only now you will get her phone number, meet her in real life or get a date.
So far for the theory. But how do you apply it?
Many guys ask themselves how to talk to girls. When they see a beautiful girl, they simply lose their cool and become totally reactive to everything the girl does: They make their first mail a comment about something obvious from the girl’s profile. When she doesn’t reply instantly, they interpret it as a rejection and get depressed. And when she does reply but challenges them by being naughty,
they think she doesn’t like them and start making excuses and being extra nice. The reality is, though: Whenever she replies, she is interested.
Next time you see a beautiful woman on Facebook or on MySpace, send her the following message (without the quotes):
Subject: "I really must say…"
Body: "That is a CUTE picture! Who is she? I really like your taste."
You’ll see: 8 out of 10 girls on MySpace, Facebook or dating websites will reply. This message will get their attention.
Why? Simple:
This is a message that starts out like most of the everyday mails she’s getting ("your’re so cute"), but right in the next sentence, the whole meaning is turned upside down. Basically, you’re saying that the picture is hot, and therefore you simply assume that it’s probably not her. Some girls will laugh about that sudden twist, some won’t, but in the end, most of them will feel challenged in some way and send you a reply.
I don’t want you to get the wrong impression, though:
Flirting is not about pick up lines. You can have the best pick up lines ever, and still never get a date and die as a virgin.
It’s not enough to know how to approach a girl. You also have to know how to talk to a girland how to keep a conversation.
It is easy to meet girls on Facebook, and it is easy to meet girls on MySpace, but you have to know how to flirt and escalate things. You need to master all three steps of flirting — attention, connection and commitment.
Ordinary dating guides or flirting tips for men will not help you here. They are written by editors in their fourties who work all day in an editor’s office, desperately struggeling to meet the deadline for the next issue of their magazine or to somehow fill up their homepage with content.
You can become good at flirting. This is not so much a matter of HOW MUCH you study and try, but rather of WHAT IT IS that you study and try. You can put in hundreds of hours of discipline and optimism, but if you’re practicing the wrong thing, you’ll never see the results you want, no matter how much you deserve them. On the other hand, if you find and do the right thing, you can become better than 80% of all the other guys out there fairly quickly.
And if you want to see what I mean I invite you to read the sample chapter of my book on how to approach and date women on MySpace and Facebook.
The book will teach you everything you need: In it, you will learn what will make your profile attractive to girls.
You will learn a step-by-step recipe for the perfect approach message.
You will learn what to talk about with a girl to build a connection.
In the book, you’ll also find some games that you can play when you’re writing e-mails with a girl that will teach you things about her that she hasn’t even shared with her best friends.
Most important, you will learn how to escalate and transition from talking online to getting her phone number, talking on the phone and meeting her for the first time in real life.
To get instant results you can learn more about dating girls on Facebook and MySpace right now on my website "TheCharmingYou". All the information there is free — and that includes the online dating tips that I send out each week via e-mail.
You will be amazed!
(And don’t forget to try out the approach message you’ve just learned in this article.)
Your friend,
Leonard Baumgardt 
P.S.: I have received lots and lots of e-mails from guys who have read my book and who have had tremendous success with it. On the other hand, I know that it is always a risk to buy something online when you’re still not sure whether it will meet your expectations or not. And because of that, I have legally committed myself to sending back the full purchase price of the book to you if you send me an e-mail and tell me that the book didn’t improve your dating life. I’ve been doing that since I first published the book. So far only 2% of my readers have asked for a refund — and have received it. On the other hand, many more have written me thank-you e-mails and recommended my book to their friends. So that makes me really proud. And it makes me confident, that you will love the book and the results you will see after you read it.